October 2011
235 posts
martins-brolly asked: I definitely disagree with having a school uniform. I know people say that it makes everyone equal; but, in my experience, school uniforms can actually decrease people's confidence, because most school uniforms only flatter a small group of people and make many others look bad. School uniforms definitely did not make me feel more self-confident, and I think looking good in them is an...
callmeheavenly-deactivated20130 asked: One of my friends once told me that catcalling "isn't really anything" and that rape happens because "men are just monsters like that". I wanted to reach across the table and slap him across the face.
abaisse asked: I also want to add that my school is INCREDIBLY diverse, and we have never really had a problem with bullying. We had a fight 5 years ago. It didn't even come to blows. The uniforms haven't changed much except the student body's tolerance of the administration. And since the founders/admins are mainly Muslim, religious/cultural suppression such as banning hijabs doesn't...
avocadomushroomprincess asked: wow so this is quite late but this is in regard to the last name debate: my friends( feminist woman + her husband) both kept their last names, but for their children, the boys have the mother's last name and the girls have the father's last name. I just thought that would add something to the table...
abaisse asked: My school has uniforms, and while I really like them, I do have one problem: their main goal seems to be making the girls more "modest". We aren't allowed to have anything shorter than knee length or wear heels. Even during free dress, nothing can be cut lower than your collarbone. A teacher said it's so we don't give boys "the wrong idea". This combined with...
cheshirecaticus asked: I remember my old high school, there was a ban on revealing too much of your arms, complete ban on wearing ANY kind of skirt, shoes over 2 1/2 inches and ban of any tattoos. My sixth form experience was even worse as our sixth form joined with an all boys college. At one point I was berated for wearing a scarf that was 'too bright' and drawing attention to myself. I could go on, but this...
katrani asked: School uniforms and bullying: yeah I didn't experience a lack of bullying at my school. You could still tell who couldn't get the best because they'd have the same clothes until they were fraying, and it just led to everyone resorting to the "oh that person's a slut/gay/etc!" form of bullying because looks were kinda-out. Especially bad since this was in middle...
baronessbamf asked: So these new rules were ONLY for girls. Not only that but the no g-string/thong rule had been a request from male students and teachers. Now while I can see why no one want to see underoos poking out the top of pants, it's always bugged me how the blokes were able to make special requests to change the rules. But throughout the entire lecture there was a big theme of "Pretty Equals...
baronessbamf asked: Oh Corgi, let me tell you a 'fantastic' incident that happened in year 8 of my Secondary School. So, I think it was after Christmas, I don't remember too clearly, anyway all the girls (And only the girls) were told to stay back after an assembly. (Which itself was pretty sexist) Anyway, we basically sat there as the new super strict uniforms rules were explained to us (No heels, no...
cant-do-that-while-stunned-deac asked: I agree with having a school uniform. You can often get picked on or made fun of, for not wearing something that's "In". By having a school uniform, everyone's the same, so it reduces a certian amount of nastiness. It also makes students easier to spot on trips and in the school I went to, it's more of a tradition, (It was started in 1880, closed after WW2 and then...
School uniforms desexualize students
I took a course at my university (University of Auckland, New Zealand) called Learning Sexualities. Part of it concerned ways that schools often desexualize students. From what I understand, school uniforms ‘regulate’ student sexuality by making students dress in a particular way - the frumpy, ill-fitting design, longer skirts, etc. By disallowing students to express themselves, their...
cuntycarlson asked: what's your opinion on high schools having dress codes that say girls can't wear tank tops/skirts two inches above the knee?
bulletinaweave asked: "Chivalry" is the code that Medieval knights abided by - or pledged to abide by. And it was mostly to live a pure, "godly," Christian, moral, etc. life, whether on the battlefield (they were warriors, after all) or about town, such as interacting with women in a town.
emilyclocke asked: Actually, chivalry comes from the word chevalier, which means knight. A large part of a knight's job was protecting women. So your last asker's boyfriend was wrong; it can also apply to men taking care of women. I'm also a historian with a minor in linguistics so I know. This isn't meant to be political, it's just pointing out the truth.
ristia-amore asked: When I got into a fit about chivalry with my family, my step-mother posted the 'Knight's Code of Chivalry': You can find them online anywhere. At the time they included 'Respect the honor of women', but I haven't been able to find that one. What do you think the connection is between the Knight's code and modern chivalry?
evashandor asked: Funnily enough, my partner hates the word chivalry: "If we're not discussing horseback war techniques, then it's not actually chivalry." He's a historian.
insanepoet9 asked: My boyfriend and I actually had a discussion about chivalry. He said he was fine with it being dead because really, courtesy is more important. And I mean, what IS chivalry? You should hold the door for a person regardless of who they are if you're able. I feel like I've already said this before...
dappertomcat asked: Oh chivalry. A friend of mine said he lives by chivalry, and I called him out on it, explaining how outdated it is and its deep roots in sexism. He said he wasn't sexist, or doesn't "do the sexist parts of chivalry." So I told him to drop the chivalry act and call himself a decent human being.
doctorbee asked: I asked my partner his thoughts on chivalry and he said he thought it was good. So I decide to ask WHAT he thought chivalry was and he really had no idea. I now suspect this is the case with a good deal of people! (I also am now giving him a lecture...)
superawesomephoenix asked: Re: marriage/kids and surnames - my ideal is whoever has the coolest/most important surname gives it to the kids, with the other surname as a middle name if it is also cool/important. The couple can also BOTH change their names to match this (to keep up the family sameness). Important includes you have a career set with it, ethnic identity etc. It's subjective and genderless.
