except it doesn’t!
it sucks when people think they can’t control themselves, seriously. ugh.
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LOL get back to work!!!! :P
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HAHA, naked ladies are awesome, i agree wholeheartedly!!! naked any gender is awesome.
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yep, female forms are thrown into art for all sorts of reasons, i used to paint naked ladies just because i enjoyed it too!
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ugh, thats VERY aggravating. it sucks when you harmlessly post something you’re passionate about and people are right there to bring you down. sounds like your family is super ignorant.
whenever i post something feminist related on my fb, i usually get no replies, which leads me to believe 1) people dont think what i post is important or 2) people dont want to start an argument with me. also kind of annoying.
and HELLO calling you a feminist twat??? how rude!!!!
keep doing what you’re doing until they know you won’t back down, babe.
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yes. the patriarchy sucks in soooo many ways.
yup, you’re right!
when i got that submission i did think of that, but i think the idea behind that submission was to debunk the idea that a feminist is some mean person that hates dudes and everything else in their path.
but yes, you’re totally right, you cant call a person a feminist without their consent because they might not like the history of the movement, which is fair.
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of course gender or sexual minorities fit with feminism!
its not hypocritical as long as you critically think about WHY and analyze that preference, you know? like, you’re very aware of the effects of socialization and such, we ALL have preferences that have been influenced by society… we just can’t escape the environment we were raised in. there’s just nothing we can do about it.
so don’t feel bad! just make a concerted effort to understand your preferences, and keep treating women as human beings, and it’s all good :)
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omg messages like this make me smile SO HARD.
please submit/contribute anytime !!!!!!
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interesting!
hmmm seems we have a few conflicting comments here.
ah, i see. okay.
i know the term “womyn” can be problematic because of it’s origins (womyn born womyn, etc)
it seems to have been reclaimed as a word for ANYONE that identifies as female, no matter what genitalia that person presents with.
however, i am NOT the most knowledgeable on the subject. i would love some other followers input on this.
An actual conversation I once had:
Me: Today we talked about the Slut Walk during class and victim-blaming.
Person: Victim-blaming?
Me: When someone says it’s the victim’s fault for being assaulted because of how they were dressed or acting or their relationship with the perpetrator.
Person: Oh, yeah, that’s totally wrong.
Me: I’m so glad to hear that and it’s especially great since you’re a guy. No matter what no one should ever be victimized.
Person: Well yeah but women should dress nicer if they don’t want to be assaulted. I’m mean if a man sees you dressed a certain way he’s more likely to try to hurt you. It’s really just better for her safety.
Me: Seriously? Criminals should just not attack people, it’s not an individual’s job to change their lives around potential threats. Especially things like sexual assault.
Person: Whoa, you’re taking this way seriously.
From CFC: THIS IS FUCKING GROSS.
UGH.
submitted by ilyke2meow
[head of a corgi on alternating pink and blue background, text above reads “boyfriend says girls aren’t supposed to spit”, bottom text reads “hawk a loogy by his shoes”]
From CFC: This is really…. lovely…. :P
oh god, no, i had NO idea we could answer privately?!?!
oh wait except i answer people privately all the time to avoid further clogging of peoples dashboards.
also, if you read all those posts, you’re aware that this place has also become a blog where people discuss opinions and such concerning feminism.
i don’t care if you don’t like all of the questions here because NO ONE is making you stay!
also no one is making you send me this snarky ass message. why do people do this? sigh.
oh this is lovely! thank you!
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we’ll see.
and life will carry on as normal, i know i know.
i don’t but maybe some of my followers do???
any followers wanna give this a go?
i never said they automatically are submitting to the male gaze, but quite frequently they are (i don’t like the term submitting though, because it makes it sound as though they proactively are like “yeah male gaze im just here to fulfill it!” which isn’t the case, it’s more subtle than that)
we have to think critically and analyze depending on the context, i think.
and i would def say katy perry’s image is alllll about the male gaze.
its not wrong for you to refer to yourself as a feminist necessarily, but some women might disagree with it and prefer you call yourself an ally, which is something you should respect. it just depends on your circle of feminists, really.
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wtf?
what did you submit to me?
rude. holy shit. i clearly didn’t receive it, yeah?
perhaps resend it before assuming i saw your submission and deleted it?! yeah?
THANKS.
pro-feminist, ally, whatever is acceptable in the context, yup :)
not insulting at all!
okay. so when katy perry is sexualized in her videos, thats not HER sexuality she’s expressing, you know? she’s fulfilling the male gaze, she’s being altered to a skewed view of sexuality that is socially acceptable, she is selling her body as a means of making money.
the reason female bodied people can always make money off their bodies is because their bodies are valued above everything else.
am i being clear? so essentially she sells her music according to what the music industry requires of women: tits and ass and dancing. it is quite literally her job to sell herself completely, through her voice and body and fashion and whatever else draws us to her.
does that make sense?
so theres a huge difference between selling herself through the male gaze and a non-famous person enjoying her sexuality in a HEALTHY way.
hope i answered your question!
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UGH that is so annoying!
thats happened to me too. sigh.
if it makes YOU feel safer to have someone there walking with you, then accept a friend walking home with you.
you’re right, we don’t live in a perfect world, we live in one where you do indeed run risk of walking home alone late at night.
trust your intuition!
make sure your dudefriends know that you don’t depend on them for your safety though, you know? don’t want them to start acting like you cannot possible be safe without them.
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i do think they can be feminists, yes
but as a male feminist they must REALLY educate themselves, check their privilege, understand systemic sexism, etc etc.
there are some that don’t think they can be feminists but rather allies. i dunno. there’s no right answer, you know???
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it is absolutely internalized misogyny and we need to stop that shit and challenge it whenever possible!!!!
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yup, get on google and educate yourself :)
because corgis are fabulous, of course!!!! and one of the people that runs CFC owns one (see our About Us for more)
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