January 2012
51 posts
miscklaire asked: I'm studying theatre in college, and the program I'm in is pretty open. Four major profs (two or three specialized ones) and twenty-one classmates, including myself. We have all our classes together so I spend my week with these people. We make jokes. Some days the jokes are really crude. A few times there have been a lot of rape jokes. Now I know that no one in the class condones rape;...
thehappymasker-deactivated20120 asked: While hanging out with some of my friends, I went out of my way to hold a door for someone, who happened to be a man. I was told by one of my friends that I 'wasn't doing it right' and that I shouldn't hold doors for men because it was 'their job'. I try and be polite to everyone, regardless of gender or anything else. I personally don't see the issue, and see it...
thegreatbabbu-deactivated201202 asked: I just noticed that a lot of people are misunderstanding the macro I made about Jane Elliott, which is the con of trying to put a whole, nuanced message into two short lines. The student I was referring to was NOT the one who simply cried, but the student who threw a tantrum, left the room, and refused to apologize when she came back in.
staminafruit-deactivated2012043 asked: hi um ok. im a really femme m-t-m in a poly relationship with an awesome girl, but shes told me she wont let me date a boy or someone "with a boys body" because they ONLY think about sex and thats not how women are and im "safe" (from rape/abuse) with women that have "female" bodies. does anyone have a clear, straightforward way to explain that ALL GENDERS RAPE/GET...
brouhahaha asked: I was at a small presentation at my graduate school where one person was posting on a sensitive topic. Talking with classmates afterward a few noted it would have been nice/appropriate/appreciated if they had given a trigger warning before it. There were maybe 30 people in the room, so I would say go for it when presenting.
lagranada-deactivated20130114 asked: Regarding whether to add a trigger warning: if you consider that it could be necessary, it's prudent to include it. Better considerate than sorry.
Nerds and Male Privilege
submitted by thatu
Just found this article and thought people here might enjoy it, especially since Tumblr is filled with fandom people: http://www.kotaku.com.au/2011/12/nerds-and-male-privilege/
ellietheasexylibrarian asked: I am presenting my senior thesis this spring about the erotica of Anais Nin. Because of some of the subject matter in the pieces, I was thinking about putting a trigger warning before my presentation. However, since these presentation panels tend to not have large crowds, I am not sure if it is appropriate. Should I go ahead and add one, or ask the director of the program if she thinks one would...
thegreatbabbu-deactivated201202 asked: Jane Elliott seems to be aware of her white privilege from what I've watched of her. She plays the role of the oppressor of the blue eyed students in the experiment and instead of telling the students how they should be reacting or how other people's lives are, she makes them experience a taste of it themselves and encourages the students of color to voice their thoughts and feelings...
openlydespicable asked: Honestly I don't think that's an issue. I've seen both the US and the UK version of the study, both times she gave the floor to the POCs quite a bit. The actions of the group inform the study, not Jane herself, she just moderates. You should watch it, especially the UK version that featured adults instead of college aged students.
fluterr asked: "It`s great that she asserts her privilege to bring attention to a cause but you gotta be careful when doing so." I'm not sure what you mean when you say one should be "careful". Could you clarify?
fluterr asked: To follow that ask about Jane Elliott, I definitely recommend you watch her documentary called Angry Eye. It's on YouTube somewhere, and Jane Elliott is not afraid to get brutal if it gets her point across. At least from what I can see in her experiments, she never acts as if she is white herself, so it's very interesting.
cuntycarlson asked: so... what is your opinion on jane elliot?
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teddyclopse asked: I agree women's magazines are all about pleasing men, and men's magazines feature a lot on how to get a woman to please you.
paintedstars asked: I work at a newsagency and this morning I was putting out new magazines; I've been away for a week so had no idea about new stock and where it had gone. I was walking past the Men's lifestyle section (with the nude ladies) and I saw Bust magazine sitting right down the front (the women's section is the opposite end of the shelf). Now, I work in a predominately female store and I was...
Can’t send links through ask, so here’s a submit:
http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/politics/justice-minister-declares-all-same-sex-marriages-legal-and-valid/article2301691/
arcane-laser-hens asked: Wait, so are the marriages recognized or not? Or are they saying the marriages are valid in Canada only? Sorry, I'm just confused as to which article is the most recent/correct.
cassturbate asked: maybe you could tag the actual meme posts and add a link on the page. I dig the discussions but mostly I come here to read the macros, I dunno I think other people might like it too. thoughts?
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pallas-athena asked: This is true, since I first messaged you I've watched more of her videos and it's done a number on my mental health. Most single mothers are evil, women almost always initiate divorce for silly selfish reasons, men have no reproductive rights and thus are excused from abandoning children, more than half of abuse is done female on male and all laws in anything heavily favor women. There...
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pallas-athena asked: Her internet name is 'girlwriteswhat' but I think she is biasing her thought process on 'The Myth of Male Power: The Disposable Male' by Warren Ferrell. You can look up 'Feminism and the Disposable Male' on Youtube and Google too and she pops right up.
I read an article at HTML Giant today (http://htmlgiant.com/author-news/you-dont-need-permission/) that made me think back the post on here from a couple days ago about the assault piece on Fetlife. Obviously the context for these stories is not the same, but it did get me thinking: if the author of the Fetlife story had followed the websites’s guidelines, would someone still be justified in...
pallas-athena asked: I was wondering what you thought of that famous lady on youtube that is trying to lead the male rights movement because she says men go off to war so women need to grow up? She's been on both lead pages for youtube and reddit and gets paid to write a lot of articles based on the the "Disposable Male" argument.
rakaizombie asked: opinions on andrea dworkin? these 50 year olds i debate with always bring her up and complain about political correctness.
goswyn asked: I had a question! Two friends got into a heated debate about the recent meltdown on the Good Men project. The point of contention was the statement "All men are rapists." being a feminist idea. I found the idea to be against a lot of what your blog represents that feminism is about gender equality for both sexes. Do you know the source? (it's supposedly from feminist fiction) Do you...
Originally titled "Women with this type of... →
submitted by chaosgarden
From CFC: this is really interesting. some folks are comfortable with this type of relationship, good for them.
but it does beg the question, “does the wife feel as though she HAS to be comfortable with it in order to not lose her husband? what if he didn’t have that freedom?”
questions we’ll never know the answer too.
Critical Feminist Corgi: [Trigger warning for... →
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[Trigger warning for sexual assault]
A friend of mine who was sexually assaulted by her then-boyfriend and his friend six years ago recently found out that he posted an account of it as an erotic story on Fetlife (which you may or may not know is a social networking site for kinksters). She…
The actual story’s been removed, but a...
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[Trigger warning for sexual assault]
A friend of mine who was sexually assaulted by her then-boyfriend and his friend six years ago recently found out that he posted an account of it as an erotic story on Fetlife (which you may or may not know is a social networking site for kinksters). She created an account to report the post, and I’ve already reported it, but she’s asked me to...
villainspiration asked: So someone posted a status on facebook about how "omgz it bothers me when females only like bands because of attractive singers"... I then spent huge posts trying to explain to him how this is sexist. And then this other fool decides because she's an ~*~english major~*~ and a feminist (lol) that I'm so obviously wrong, that I have to consider context... No, I don't. Saying...
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Oh REALLY?
http://27.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lx90xt3gEt1qkez8po1_400.png
submitted by le-carnaval-de-mal
From CFC: okay um EW?!
TW: rape
teddyclopse asked: Regarding the ask about assholes in history class, what about talking to the teacher about it? Cuz once their mothers hear about it, I think they'll be in deep shit.
system-of-strings asked: There are a few boys that sit near me in my history class who are quite sexist often make fun of rape. For example; we were watching a film one day, and whenever it mentioned a group of warriors pilaging a town and raping women, they cheered. Also, I heard one asking the others, "When a girl says no, she means yes, right?" and laughing. All but one replied "yes." They seem to...
anouisofastora asked: Could you put tags on all the Macros? I'm tired of wanting to see something that might brighten my day either because corgis or something funny, and all I see is ASKS EVERYWHERE
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arcane-laser-hens asked: I am the person who talked about the horrible customer a few days ago. Just read the thebadmamajama rant. Tried to go to their blog but was blocked. I agree with l your points. They act as if you have campaigned against rights on other continents, I don't see that. They made snap judgments about me too. I'm not a submissive type, I have trouble thinking quickly in hostile environments. I...
purplegoesbothways asked: Yeah, I didn't think about how he was just appreciating their looks, which I can't know for sure because I could only talk to him for so long, but that's a good point.
cardinal-bitchface asked: The idea that people should just "laugh it off" pisses me off. That is some seriously privileged shit right there. Many cultures are built upon the foundations of oppression and it's so ingrained in those cultures that it makes people uncomfortable to be confronted with the truth, or they simply deny that it exists. That's a problem. People need to be called out on their BS or...
purplegoesbothways asked: I'm a cashier at target and today a guest I was ringing up was telling me how he had a thing for a blonde female security officer that works there and that there's just something about a beautiful woman in uniform. I'm not too sure how I feel since on one hand he's maybe being condescending yet he shows well deserved appreciation for female officers.
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thebadmamajama asked:
I, personally, don`t believe “Laughing it off” or just dismissing the argument is all that bad. If we bring the fiery wrath of God upon all those who make a kitchen joke, then I feel that the point of feminism is gone. North American women have got, not a perfect, but a fairly decent representation. Why are you so strung up about chore wars, when that really means so little....
tswiftmomblog asked: I work as a delivery driver, and a couple of our regular customers have told me (once to my face and once to another driver) that they would not be tipping because I am not a “pretty girl”. I feel that statements like this are inherently both sexist (special treatment based on gender and appearance) and homophobic (tipping me would be conceding that they think I’m...
mama-jama asked: What is your opinion of using humor as a tactic for dealing with sexism? I've seen this blog condone reporting people, leaving friends, and having serious confrontations, you've even laughed with people who say they're hostile in feminist discussions, yet you very rarely say that someone should just "Laugh it off, it doesn't matter in the long run." or even...
capncaptain asked: Regarding the question about the abusive customer and sticking up for oneself, I think it's just something you have to work at. I used to be really nervous around people, but then I went into teaching in college, and I got a bit more confident. I'm less likely to take crap from people I know, but strangers still are able to make me fall silent a lot of the time. It's just something...
whorecrooks-deactivated20120515 asked: Hands down my absolute favourite blog on the internet.
azurewhelp asked: I too have social anxieties and normal social conditioning as a woman. The problem is learning just how to be assertive. You don't have to be angry but being direct and speaking slowly to someone can help you work up the courage. If a customer is rude to you, apologize but firmly state that you misheard them. If you can manage eye contact, do that. Then say that if they are being hostile,...
murphysbride asked: I've worked in customer service for a looong time and I've had several bad experiences with hostile people. There's really no way to deal with it when it catches you off guard, but once you experience it for the first time it helps you deal with it better the second time. People will take their hostility out on customer service workers just because they can; the best way to deal...
