January 2012
51 posts
purplegoesbothways asked: Yeah, I didn't think about how he was just appreciating their looks, which I can't know for sure because I could only talk to him for so long, but that's a good point.
cardinal-bitchface asked: The idea that people should just "laugh it off" pisses me off. That is some seriously privileged shit right there. Many cultures are built upon the foundations of oppression and it's so ingrained in those cultures that it makes people uncomfortable to be confronted with the truth, or they simply deny that it exists. That's a problem. People need to be called out on their BS or...
purplegoesbothways asked: I'm a cashier at target and today a guest I was ringing up was telling me how he had a thing for a blonde female security officer that works there and that there's just something about a beautiful woman in uniform. I'm not too sure how I feel since on one hand he's maybe being condescending yet he shows well deserved appreciation for female officers.
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thebadmamajama asked:
I, personally, don`t believe “Laughing it off” or just dismissing the argument is all that bad. If we bring the fiery wrath of God upon all those who make a kitchen joke, then I feel that the point of feminism is gone. North American women have got, not a perfect, but a fairly decent representation. Why are you so strung up about chore wars, when that really means so little....
tswiftmomblog asked: I work as a delivery driver, and a couple of our regular customers have told me (once to my face and once to another driver) that they would not be tipping because I am not a “pretty girl”. I feel that statements like this are inherently both sexist (special treatment based on gender and appearance) and homophobic (tipping me would be conceding that they think I’m...
mama-jama asked: What is your opinion of using humor as a tactic for dealing with sexism? I've seen this blog condone reporting people, leaving friends, and having serious confrontations, you've even laughed with people who say they're hostile in feminist discussions, yet you very rarely say that someone should just "Laugh it off, it doesn't matter in the long run." or even...
capncaptain asked: Regarding the question about the abusive customer and sticking up for oneself, I think it's just something you have to work at. I used to be really nervous around people, but then I went into teaching in college, and I got a bit more confident. I'm less likely to take crap from people I know, but strangers still are able to make me fall silent a lot of the time. It's just something...
whorecrooks-deactivated20120515 asked: Hands down my absolute favourite blog on the internet.
azurewhelp asked: I too have social anxieties and normal social conditioning as a woman. The problem is learning just how to be assertive. You don't have to be angry but being direct and speaking slowly to someone can help you work up the courage. If a customer is rude to you, apologize but firmly state that you misheard them. If you can manage eye contact, do that. Then say that if they are being hostile,...
murphysbride asked: I've worked in customer service for a looong time and I've had several bad experiences with hostile people. There's really no way to deal with it when it catches you off guard, but once you experience it for the first time it helps you deal with it better the second time. People will take their hostility out on customer service workers just because they can; the best way to deal...
arcane-laser-hens asked: I work at a movie theater and last night I was the ticket taker. I had a customer ask me to do something but he spoke quickly and I misunderstood him and consequently did what he asked me not to do. He then proceeded to call me stupid several different ways without actually saying the word. I apologized and explained that I hadn't heard all of what he said repeatedly. He finally left but...
December 2011
46 posts
On the chore wars type thing
It’s not just alien for men to be the main caregiver. I no longer work and am the main caregiver, however as I am disabled my husband does most if the cooking, a huge chunk of the cleaning and is extremely active in parenting. This is considered very strange and I’m constantly told how lucky I am to have a husband who helps with things like the bed time routine and cooking. Which just...
dissecting-my-brain-deactivated asked: I know I'm late to the "Chore Wars" post, but the other day, a news program ran a story on stay at home dads. Two things surprised me: that this was still such a foreign concept that it warranted coverage on NATIONAL news, and when I tried discussing it with my mom all she said was, "Well, how many do you think are doing this because they lost their jobs?” It didn’t...
notanihilist asked: I just wanted to recommend a book to all of you fellow corgis. It's a 13th century french poem called Silence about this girl who is disguised as a boy and grows up to be a famous minstrel and knight. It's basically a gender dialogue, and I still love it even though I hate, hate, hate the ending.
crayolagoddess asked: In my freshman level three History class, this boy sits next to me. He knows I'm a feminist, and he tries his best to annoy me with sexist jokes, makes objectifying comments about me, and purposefully shut down any arguments I make in class about politics with "What do you know, you're a chick?". I've tried complaining to my teacher, but he says I shouldn't be that...
familydutyhonor asked: My sister was recently in an all-female production of Twelfth Night. It was awesome and I heard no complaints!
weltraumkatzeaufpilzen asked: Re: Playing male parts from Shakespeare's plays. A few years ago I saw the play "As You Like It" on German TV where all the genders had been switched. It was staged by and with Katharina Thalbach. I couldn't find a link in English about it anywhere unfortunately. It was mad funny and awesome though :)
siblingincest asked: Maybe it's because of my oh-so-overbearing personality, but I've never had the problem of sexism in high school - maybe because everyone knows that I am an immoral person who will bite off anyone's head if they so much as mutter a non-equaltarian comment. Yes, I know it's bad for the cause, but...
barricadeponine asked: Last year I took a sociology class and it was full of very, uh...opinionated men who, whenever I gave my view (which was often), I was often told to go back to the kitchen, make a sandwich, etc. We also had a whole unit on the feminist movement, which, needless to say, the boys hated.
bidenpocalypse asked: In high school debate there is an absurd amount of sexism. I can't count the number of times I've been told I'm overly aggressive. What's worse is, at one point, my close friend was told she shouldn't debate because her voice was too girly and high-pitched, so no one could take her seriously. The small/non-existent number of girls in higher, national level debate is a very...
