staminafruit asked:

hi um ok. im a really femme m-t-m in a poly relationship with an awesome girl, but shes told me she wont let me date a boy or someone "with a boys body" because they ONLY think about sex and thats not how women are and im "safe" (from rape/abuse) with women that have "female" bodies. does anyone have a clear, straightforward way to explain that ALL GENDERS RAPE/GET RAPED ITS NOT A PENIS THING?? this is what she was taught in school and by parents. everyone in this blog seems amazing so i thought

and that someone here would be able to help me explain to her that im safe with a person who happens to have a penis. uh also shes a mtf trans* person and says that because shes horny all the time and has a penis, thats how all boys are. ?? i dont see any logic in her argument at all and feel really safe with people who have any genitals at all.

there is honestly no logic in her argument.

perhaps she thought she could do a poly relationship but is having a more difficult time with it than she thought she would? i mean, i guess sit down with her and explain what YOU have in mind when it comes to poly relationships and if it’s not okay with her, then re-evaluate whether it can continue or not as it is.

it would be a shame to end it because your partner is not comfortable with you having sex with someone with a penis but it might be a deal breaker.

any followers have any suggestions?

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