kill-natalie asked:

I'm very much for women's rights and equalities but I don't align myself with the current wave of feminism because I disagree with the feminist methodology of attaining equality. I'd just like to say that it's probably healthy for you (and everyone, really) to read, watch, etc. people who disagree with you without the intent to try and convert them to your way of thinking. It just seems like you often blow off other's opinions because it's "bad for your mental health." Take care.

i get where you’re coming from.

but i basically live and breathe feminism. a lot of folks do.

so it can truly be difficult to listen to someone when they, for example, state some rape apologism.

it becomes bad for my mental health because i think of all the women i know and all my sisters around the world that have to bear the brunt of sexual violence. it makes me sad when they are silenced and that silence is evidenced by people’s heartless comments.

the same goes for any uneducated opinions stated. for evidence of this, go to the blog of someone who is a men’s rights activist, and watch how they skew facts and dismiss my social inequality as a woman in every sphere of life. when my struggles are dismissed as “well, women don’t enter the higher paying jobs! well, she was wearing a mini skirt! well, she should have spoken up! well, why don’t women go into the army! well, violence against men can be a problem too!”

you see how it’s a struggle to maintain one’s peace of mind when we are met with comments like the above every single day? it’s really difficult.

i really don’t go into convos hoping to change people’s opinions, but i certainly have a right to criticize them when they marginalize me or marginalize POC, people with disabilities, the gender and sexual minority population, etc etc.

i have that right to tell people they’re being oppressive.

if i need to leave a subject alone for my well-being, so be it. if i want to approach a topic because i feel like it and it is disgustingly marginalizing, so be it.

in the wise words of Sammi from Jersey Shore: “I’ll do me, you do you” times a million.

in other words: don’t tell me how to do my activism. 

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    Attaining progress towards equality...a constant war. You
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    reblogging for the wonderful comments added to my initial response to the question.
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    THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. I don’t really have anything to add since everyonehere has said everything.
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    Nothing will ever get done if we sit back and relax. Nothing will get done if we aren’t combative. Sexism and all other...
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    feminism this is...my feminism I can’t breathe when I hear